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2004-11-03 - 12:27 p.m.
All right, I'm going to get political here for a minute.
The only couple I know of that has a truly admirable, long-lasting relationship will never have the right to get married in eleven of the states in this nation. (Not that they really have the right in this state either.)
Yeah, yeah, I know, marriage is kind of silly and bunk these days anyway, right?
Interestingly enough, even the friends of mine that most abhor the idea of marriage and committed relationships still hold this particular couple we know up as an ideal, perhaps assuming that their commitment transcends that of social conventions.
The point is, social conventions CAN NOT apply to their relationship when a large percentage of society still sees their love as an abberation.
If my friends WANTED social conventions to apply to their relationship -- say by asking the world to recognize them as married -- they wouldn't have the RIGHT to do so.
How is this different from deciding that people with red hair or brown skin or club feet should not have the right to marry?
It is a matter of civil rights.
Eleven states have decided (Oregon!?!) that men loving men and women loving women isn't really love, it's just a "civil" transaction.
Why discriminate against love and commitment? Why reduce people's humanity to a transaction? (This question can of course be raised about marriage in general but that's another story.)
The "sanctity" of neither marriage nor of humanity is preserved.
So this makes me wonder: How do my heterosexual friends even THINK about getting married? Some of our closest friends -- friends who do a much better job at being in committed relationships than we do -- don't have the same civil rights.
So this is my request to all my friends:
Don't get married.At least until all of us have the same right to do so.